A short while ago the Globe and Mail (www.globeandmail.com) did an article under the dubious title “Hassle Free Hookups”. The article goes on to point out that there is a steady and consistent increase in the number of people joining, and using the various online dating websites. The author Zosia Bielski goes on to point out that these sites do not necessarily promise happily ever after. Although, visitors may often find that one thing they were hoping to find, that is “digital booty”.

Of the sites listed, Bielski presents them in a graphic format plotting the sites on a grid that rates these sites from “one night stands”:(www.adultspace.com; www.fling.com); to “marriage”:(www.eHarmony.com; www.chemistry.com); “raunchy”:(www.sugardaddy.com; www.lavalife.com); to “wholesome”:(www.PlanetEarthSingles.com; www.HumanitarianDating.com). Within these parameters each of the sites is placed in the area that best suits their goals, and purpose.

What struck me most about the article and the content was that this is an area in which individuals are increasingly turning to seek out a connection with someone. Of course their motives are as varied as those graphically illustrated on the grid. As the numbers of sites indicate; there are a lot of people looking to meet, connect, hookup, and establish a relationship.

In my experience as a Clinical Sexologist, and now Coach, I have come to appreciate the need in all of use to be with someone, whether it is physical, for companionship, or for a meaningful and growing relationship. Each of which are testament to our human condition.

The problems though, seem to arise, not with what is intended; rather, with the means and know-how of how to bring their goal to fruition. That is why we have developed the processes and formulas at www.coachvista.com. Working with individuals our Coaches assist them in ways to better understand themselves, their goals, and the outcomes they wish to achieve. If you don’t know where you are going it is difficult to get there.

The tremendous glut of sites offering the opportunities for individuals to meet someone is only half the equation. What is also needed is help in defining and optimizing what it is you want and developing the means of how to get there.